The Empress’ New Clothes

Why didn’t I have a stronger interest in adorning my male presentation at the same intensity as I focused on Savannah’s presentation? Was I, in fact, uncaring of who Chuck was because of how I dressed him? I found several reasons why my focus on Savannah eclipsed my focus on Chuck, including the concepts of time, comfort, safety, and personal choice.

Cult of Mutual Exclusivity

The point is… fear is not mutually exclusive of bravery. Femininity is not the absence of masculinity. Love is not the opposite of hate. Strength and vulnerability are not mutually exclusive. While I stand behind my words stating the psychological and physical components of self can all live mutually exclusive from social “norms” expectations and assumptions, the true note to take away from that statement is that our birth biology or gender identity is not a presupposition or limiter of who we are at out true hearts and minds as individuals.